I was reading an article that gave the secret for women to have supernatural sexual attraction power:
1. Suspend Your Inner Critic
2. Be Open to Other People
3. Suspend Your Inner Critic
When he says “suspend your inner critic”, he’s really onto something important. Over 95% of women in Montreal ?fail these basic points. Then they think their problem is that they are overweight!? Common.
Even women who do a lot of spiritual development, and I would almost say especially them, ?have their inner critic voice constantly running. Having dated a fair amount of self-development coaches and healers, it seems that with all the work they do on themselves, many are still very criticizing because “they know what they want”, yet they can’t have it because they want perfection and will criticize almost everything. All these coaches I dated were single and I often felt like I always had to be perfect and couldn’t just be myself.
There’s another very important point to add to the list. Some of the healers I dated did work on developing their Shakti feminine energy. Yet, they don’t provide ?the same relationship experience as some foreign women who never did any kind of self-development. Why is that?
I was talking with a woman who is a powerful healer and I asked her opinion about some aspects of Natural Grounding. She told me it was juvenile feminine energy, not mature women who assumed their power. And then I realized… when she talks about women who assume their power, she talks about women who have a good balance of Yin/Yang or even women who are more in their masculinity. All the women I know in Montreal who developed their Shakti/Yin/feminine side have an even stronger Yang/masculine side. Women are like cargo boats. Some women work on guiding their cargo through intuition instead of through GPS to have more ease and freedom. Yet, there’s a big difference between an intuition-guided cargo boat and an angel! That’s why the most developed women here don’t provide the same relationship experience as some foreign women who have the lightness and ease of angels. Some Western women develop their feminine side as long as they stay in the security of their even stronger masculine side.
Two questions remain and I would like to hear your opinion.
1. Why do so many Western women keep their inner critic voice running instead of ?accepting and embracing life as it is?
2. Why are Western women so damn afraid of letting go of the ground and flowing in their femininity?
Post your thoughts and comments!
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#1 by bedingo on October 18, 2010 - 5:42 pm
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Women often point out the need to have the presence of unwavering masculine energy to provide them with a “space” for them to let go. The way that guys are these days make it nearly impossible for them to find that, which is why they try to keep the “best of both worlds”. I also think that todays considers traditional femininity to be outdated, and encourages the “maturity” they attempt to achieve.
#2 by Rion on October 19, 2010 - 12:33 am
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A lot of it has to do with the relational environment and it’s influence. The West has a different value system AND definition of what it’s like to be a woman so it’s going to require some new education as well as a new popular movement of sorts before major changes may start happening.
With the proper environment and training like us and/or the like of Gina Cloud on a smaller scale we could provide a more accurate or open support system for Western women to get in touch with their true femininity again…to redefine it beyond socio-cultural boundaries.
Much of it includes letting go of the ego just like with men. In a large way it’s up to the men to provide that safety for them to let them know it’s o.k. to be real and to see her for something other than society’s warped ideals.
It may take decades for shakti and a new change of value system to take over in the West b/c the fight against mainstream independent women and sexploitation are very strong and influential standards.
#3 by Ish on October 19, 2010 - 9:01 am
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> 1. Why do so many Western women keep their inner critic voice
running instead of accepting and embracing life as it is?
Ego development. they keep the voice in their head running as they associate the voice as them. The gurus and the healers still associate some of the voice as them especially when it comes to subjects that their ego seems to be an expert in.
> 2. Why are Western women so damn afraid of letting go of the
ground and flowing in their femininity?
Ego development and Massive brainwashing from the media.
🙂
I hope the above makes sense. what do you think?
#4 by Ales on October 19, 2010 - 9:02 am
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This is not just my theory but it is another point of view…
…womans hearth must be touched by the divine in order that she can relax in her feminine. That means that either she meet a guy of that deep level or she literally is touched by the divine power of the universe. Logically is hard to explain. Imagine that she suffers so hard in her masculine that she has no choice but surrender in her true essence.
…also we must consider that there are women who have masculine essence as theire prime as there are men who have feminine essence as therie prime
Michael Jackson was clearly a man with a feminine essence. The way he moved with energy was magnificent. Masculine and feminine are attracted to each other, but that is not entirely dependent on sex. The problem is that many woman cover with fear their true essence (modern woman do this a lot). It is usually because of some past experience like rejection or the way their parents treet them. At least that are my experiences
#5 by Etienne Charland on October 19, 2010 - 5:46 pm
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There are some women I met who are plugged to the divine on high voltage! That doesn’t mean it brings them into their pure feminine side although it helps develop it.
#6 by Stefan on October 19, 2010 - 12:50 pm
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Hahaha…. I liked your questions
The key value in the western culture is rationality. So you get
a (false) ego. And you start thinking you move from point A to point B
in life.
This rationality and linear thinking locks us like caged animals.
The women learn to control themselves rather than
letting go with the flow.
Ps And those funny “spiritual development” women you meet
are as illusioned as everybody else.
#7 by Raul on October 19, 2010 - 2:17 pm
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Well, I’ve got some questions instead of some answers.
If these questions say a lot about your program AA delete it and answer me via mail, but I think your product has much more value than what I’m going to ask here.
When you say femenine energy is flowing, while masculine energy is logical, I don’t get a few things.
1) Logical means egoical, or is there a logic beyond the ego?
2) Why is it that, if masculine sexual energy is logical, the ones that have great success have it the most when they are flowing and in states quite non-egoic?
I think, don’t know yet, that masculine sexual energy is “strong”. This is the only adjective that I think is pretty accurate.
#8 by Etienne Charland on October 19, 2010 - 2:21 pm
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You could view masculine Yang as structured and active while feminine Yin is flowing and passive.
Egoic/Non-egoic is a different frequency of energy than Yin/Yang. It is also a different frequency than sexual, emotional, integrity or spiritual energies.
#9 by Ganesh on October 20, 2010 - 4:49 am
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The books of David Deida explains the second question. Deida talks about Ying/Yang and Tantra.
And The power of now (Echart Tolle) explains the first.
#10 by Etienne Charland on October 20, 2010 - 12:35 pm
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Thanks.
I also read this from Rion’s Ego-Fading e-book:
“People say to ?go with the flow? but when that flow is the Western, aggressive, agenda-driven, oppressive, ego-based, socio-centric, competitive advertising, concrete and steel of programming influence around you, it may not be the best idea.”
#11 by Feliciano on October 23, 2010 - 2:50 pm
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I’m no expert, but it would seem to me that women are as confused as men are nowadays, if not more.
Women keep the ‘inner critic’ on, because we all have this inner critic on in the background (save those of us who have more or less become enlightened.)
More so with women, since they have been brought up among criticism from parents, society, and their friends at school; and they have made a habit of criticizing others.
Perfectionism promoted by the media (perfect bodies, perfect clothes, perfect habits, perfect children) did nothing more than set up a standard against which women would criticize themselves (and each other) even more. Especially in the West – but since the world is becoming a global village, women in the East are becoming more and more this way when exposed to the media.
Women are afraid of being ‘flowing’ and ‘feminine’ because, to many women in the West, being ‘feminine’ is the equivalent of what being a ‘wussy’ is to a man. They are taught that they will never get anywhere in a man’s world if they are ‘weak’ – thus, they often behave coldly and aggressively, which is what they mistakenly believe is ‘strength’. I can’t remember the last time I’ve seen a man behaving aggressively – yet when going to stores, downtown, etc., I sometimes see several women A DAY behaving outright aggressively and rudely towards someone who might have done some little thing to them (and I live in an Eastern European country!)
It’s just amazing.
Women in the West have forgotten HOW to be feminine, and WHAT femininity is, just like men have forgotten how to be masculine. Note, we have not LOST our femininity/masculinity, we have just forgotten it because it has been lost under piles of media & social programming that just cover what we truly are. So women have become as lost as men (although they skilfully pretend not to be.)
A lot of the success of the huge PUA-course market nowadays is due to the fact that women have changed, making men think they need to ‘catch up’, and learn the latest pickup secret. Yet this is also the reason of this market’s impending failure – the dating coaches are trying to make men fit into a woman’s mold, tending to what she likes, without EVER realizing that it is the WOMEN that need changing (or ‘naturalizing’) even more than men do. It is more than 50% the women’s ‘fault’.
I have not seen, to date, a single PUA course that ‘puts women in their place’, and that says that women are the ones that need to accept their responsibility and change, to stop their eternal nagging and complaining and saying that there are no more ‘real’ men left.
Of course, women, being the way they are, are all too happy to support the politically correct and PUA theories that they are ‘all right’, and that it’s a man’s fault if something goes wrong in a pickup or a relationship. have you noticed how PUA’s ALWAYS try to find out ‘what mistake the man did’? Women prefer to blame the men, and keep men in a constant state of guilt and trying to become ever more perfect, ‘real’ men. Many women like thinking that they are the ‘queens’, and can do as they please, while men try all these different methods to ‘become perfect’, to get in their good graces.
In traditional societies (and even in Communist countries some 40-50 years ago), they used to TEACH women to be women – how to be feminine, how to take care of their husbands, children and the household; how to knit and cook, etc. They should have courses for women to BE WOMEN, and be flowing, and supportive, and nurturing, and not be afraid of it – but all they do nowadays is teach women to be manipulative and controlling, and ‘on top’. There are many courses and books on that kind of thing (and the entire TV industry is full of films like that.) The small number of courses that tend to ‘grounding’ and ‘femininity’ are often very narrow, ie. they focus only on one or two aspects of being a woman. They also tend to send the message that ‘ok, be feminine, but DON’T FORGET to be strong, and powerful, and stand up to men, and demand your rights, etc… as if presupposing that femininity implies weakness.
Yet even suggesting that women aren’t ‘behaving like natural women’ would provoke an outcry due to the ‘lack of political correctness’ of such a statement.
Now being a ‘natural’ man is all well and fine, but we’ve come to the point when we’re practically asking men to become ‘enlightened’, with no wants and no ego, just in order to attract women. But what are we asking of women? Nothing. We should ask – no, DEMAND, more from them.
All this might seem a little off-topic, but in reality it isn’t. There is no ‘Yin’ and ‘Yang’ as two separate energies, or entities, as we tend to think. My acupuncture teacher (who was, in my opinion, ahead of the norm) used to say that Yin and Yang are ALWAYS together, they are never separate from each other. There is no Yin without Yang in nature, ever. So if men are one half of a football, and women the other half, will one half stay inflated if you deflate the other?
Women, please wake up, look at yourselves in all sincerity, and become the true sisters you are meant to be!
#12 by Etienne Charland on October 23, 2010 - 3:52 pm
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Thanks, this is the best answer so far. However, it still doesn’t bring the clarity of answer I’m looking for. In order to be able to teach women, I must clearly understand what’s holding them back and what I would do if I was a woman myself. It’s not about men vs women. It’s about both men and women being confused and looking for answers.
I just ordered the books The Power of Now and The Way of the Superior Man.
#13 by Feliciano on October 23, 2010 - 4:15 pm
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The Power of Now is excellent, and I think it is the key to solving ALL our problems!
My answer, though it my appear it, is not about men vs women – in fact it’s calling for balance. Men, work on yourselves, but women – work on yourselves too. I’m saying, don’t expect too much from the other sex without accepting responsibility for yourself.
We both know what a ‘real’ man and a ‘real’ woman are – the core of real men is the same although the various men might be different personality-wise. Same goes for women.
The reason we ‘know’, or can ‘intuit’ what a real man/woman is(n’t), is the same as the way we know when we are ill – because we are so far off from our natural state of health, when we feel everything is normal and natural, to the point when we don’t really feel our bodies. Similarly, we ‘know’ that certain men or women are not ‘natural’, because we ‘feel’ something has gone off course.
Just like we see the Leaning Tower of Piza, and feel just a little bit uncomfortable when looking at it. It’s nice, but it just MAY fall over at any moment, because it’s not in its natural position.
In my view, the only true solution to this issue is a global one – each person doing what they can to reach the empty, free, natural space within themselves. It’s such a simple and easy answer that it might seem TOO simple. But when this is done, each person will be what they are naturally, and any unnatural family/religious/social/media influences will simply fall away and people will no longer be burdened by them. Men will become ‘real’ men, and women will become ‘real’ women. Whatever that ‘really’ means. And even if they don’t, they won’t care, because the pressures of expectation will no longer be there. And unfortunately, I feel that no short-term solution (ie. fixing or ‘healing’ a person’s masculinity/femininity/posture/groundedness/thinking habits, etc) will work. It needs to be all-out. And everyone needs to be aware of the issue, and jump onto the train.
I didn’t know you were planning to teach women, Etienne. What are you planning to teach them?
#14 by Etienne Charland on October 23, 2010 - 4:43 pm
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I talk with a lot of women, especially very spiritually developed women. When I tell them about what I do, they say “yes men really need it!”, when in fact women really need it as well. In order to truly be effective at what I do, I should be able to communicate it to both men and women without friction. I talk with a lot of women about spirituality but whatever goes close to the subject of polarity usually bring up a lot of resistance.
I am very aware that a 30% shift in language can bring a 300% shift in results.
#15 by Feliciano on October 23, 2010 - 5:02 pm
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As I mentioned earlier, I noticed the same thing – women get very upset when hearing anything they think is critical or politically incorrect towards women, (even if the intention isn’t to criticize).
Personally, when talking to women about these ‘sensitive topics’, I have noticed that:
– being respectful
– talking in a matter-of-fact way,
– being sure of what I’m talking about,
– not being critical,
– (sometimes) being humorous,
– and NOT trying hard NOT to hurt them,
often works, and they listen. They might have some slight resistance to what I’m saying inside, but they don’t protest aloud, and often show through their reactions, shyness and/or facial features that they agree with what I’ve said.
I have also recently started hearing some women talk very honestly about the ‘negative’ aspects of women in general, which was very surprising to me.
I have noticed that women are held back by 3 main things, and these 3 things are, in turn, what ‘screws up’ their relationships, their femininity, their ability to listen to comments about women, their authenticity, their child-raising habits, and their lives in general.
I wish you all the best, Etienne, in helping both men and women in any way you can!
#16 by Etienne Charland on October 23, 2010 - 8:04 pm
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There are a bunch of women (mostly foreigners and spiritually evolved women) who realize the problems caused by the women empowerment movement as they live it daily. There is this one woman I’ve known for a while. She’s a sexologist and a very powerful Alchemy healer. She has a feminine energy that is very rare to find and she’s about to teach about Tantric femininity with some of the most powerful shamans. Honestly, she’s stronger than me with energies. However, I recently realized that her feminine energy is so strong because her masculine energy is even stronger. She never had to surrender to her femininity. Thus, the relationship can sometimes be chaotic. She’s working hard to develop her femininity even more. How could I help her? That is the question.
#17 by Etienne Charland on October 23, 2010 - 9:32 pm
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Also, generally speaking, women are much more open to spirituality than men. Many men don’t want to hear anything about these “new age” concepts. They are single. They are rational. They are logical. As a computer programmer, I used to be that way too.
When you go to self-development events that are spiritually oriented (towards health or business generally), there are always much more women than men (usually between 60% and 90%, depending on the type of event).
By the way, you guys are really great. The same conversation on Natural Game forum goes absolutely nowhere.
#18 by Feliciano on October 24, 2010 - 9:30 pm
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I hear what you’re saying, Etienne.
From what I understand, you live in Canada. I used to live there for a while (a couple of years.) I must admit that it’s difficult to find a more politically correct and feminist country than Canada (with the possible exception of places like Sweden, where I also happened to live!) But I think Canada beats even Sweden.
I remember at university in Canada, during a psychology course, a professor mentioning something about depression rates among women being much higher than in men. He made the mistake of saying the ‘W’ word. There was a female student who kept protesting and nagging at him just for saying that. Such things seemed to be off-limits for some people, even though they were factual. He explained his arguments every time, but she just wouldn’t let go. Finally, when he lost his patience, he said, ‘OK, what? Women can’t have pathologies?’
The point being, that Canada is not really a good yardstick for women around the world – most women elsewhere are quite different. It is a country that has gone to an extreme with regards to feminism and political correctness (read ‘don’t say what’s true and openly evident, especially about certain topics’.) Thus it has become a very programmed society in more ways than one. Although this has helped Canada to become a very efficient, clean, relatively tolerant, crime-free country where everyone has enough to eat, the social consequences have not been positive at the level of family and love relationships.
Yes, women are more open to spirituality than men… in the West. But if you go to India, you will see the 70-30 woman/man ratio that you so often see in the West, often inverted in men’s favour. In Arab and African countries, you will often see an 80/20 or 90/10 ratio in men’s favour in esoteric schools (Sufis, etc.)
Funnily enough, in these countries, men are often not ashamed to walk the streets holding hands (even though they’re straight), but at the same time they are more ‘manly’ and the ‘head of the family’ than anywhere in the West.
I live in Europe, and I have about as many male friends interested in spirituality as female ones.
Etienne, I applaud your efforts to help women become more feminine, more spiritual, and more authentic. Especially with regards to the female alchemist. To be quite honest with you, I don’t know the solution.
So maybe all this stuff I’m writing is just wasting your time. But at a ‘feeling’ level, and from my own experience, I feel that sometimes people just need to be left alone, going their own path, until they ‘hit a brick wall’, and realize on their own that they’ve made a mistake and need to change direction. Sometimes, all we can do is gently tell them what we think, thus planting a seed that will sprout some time in the future.
Also, there is something very revealing in the last sentence you said in #16 – ‘She?s working hard to develop her femininity even more.’ Maybe I understood it incorrectly… but that sounds really terrible! And so unnatural!
Why does she have to DEVELOP something that she already IS? What exactly does she think she is missing??? This can only lead to trouble. What can she ADD to herself that makes her more ‘woman’? It’s like trying to clean a glass by putting detergent on it, and then more detergent, and then washing powder, and then more detergent yet. Instead of just taking a cloth and wiping the dust off it, revealing the glass as it always originally was – pristine.
Since you know the Sedona method and similar technologies, maybe it might be a good idea to help her release all her ideas and preconceptions about masculinity and femininity – if she’s open to it. She might not be, if she’s very invested in her ‘identity’ as a powerful, ‘feminine’ woman shaman/alchemist.
So this ‘strong’ woman you mention – can she allow herself to be ‘weak’? If not, then where is the femininity? She might as well be a man (from a Clint Eastwood movie!)
#19 by Etienne Charland on October 24, 2010 - 10:23 pm
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There are a lot of good points in what you say. However, we always have the choice to see the glass half-full or half-empty.
I’m not just in Canada. After living a year in Thailand, I purposely chose downtown Montreal, by far the busiest zone of the province, to put myself into a more challenging environment in order to learn more. Challenges are what allow us to grow. I met some amazing people here, and I’m leaving at the end of December.
About developing vs uncovering her femininity, maybe I didn’t chose the right word but that doesn’t really matter. She’s doing the right things and it is much more powerful than Sedona Method – but also requires much more discipline and work. She recognizes that women here are very masculine. It’s just the definition of what it means to be a woman that is pretty much unknown to people in the West. And truthfully, going with the flow and being vulnerable may not be the wisest thing in this toxic environment.
I’m very effective at helping men who are open to it because I’m crystal clear about solving the roots of the issues. If I could get the same clarity about the issues women experience, I could write about it and help them… People have to learn from their own path, but when they come to me, I’ll do whatever I can to help.
#20 by Feliciano on October 25, 2010 - 10:17 am
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That is great. I understand you travel, but I was speaking specifically of Canada, and the difference between Canada and other countries, which I’m sure you’re aware of.
I see that there are some things that you misunderstand in my posts, but then again, each one of us has our own ‘filters’, and it’s very possible that I don’t explain myself too well.
It’s very difficult to analyze such a situation as the one you mention with the woman in your email, because of the lack of information provided. So I was just taking stabs in the dark.
Ideally, the best thing would be to see the person face-to-face. Lacking that option, it’s very difficult to know her exact problem or solution, without knowing what kind of person she is, and what exactly she’s doing, it?s difficult to provide a specific solution Does she work with shamanic healing? If so, with or without herbs? Is it trying to raise kundalini? If so, with or without a partner? Is it connecting to the energy of goddesses? Is it bodywork? The alchemy she does, is it the usual, ‘energetic/psychological’ alchemy, or does she make physical compounds, spagyrics, etc? Does she meditate, and if so, is it guided/visualized meditation or ‘pure’ meditation? I’m not asking for an answer to all these questions, but I’m saying, it’s very difficult to give a specific answer to a very general question without knowing the details about the person.
I have to apologize, as maybe this is not the thread to post about this, and with this I will finish my commenting, but just as an aside, regarding the Sedona method, are you SURE what she’s doing is more powerful?
I’m not trying to prove anything, or to get into a contest of ‘whose method is better’, as I am awed by the huge variety of methods out there, but of the hundreds of methods I’ve seen (and many of which I’ve tried) for years, including many healing methods, mystical and tantric paths, etc, in my view the SM goes deeper than any, and in a faster and simpler way, but this can only be experienced if a person uses it a lot. It is not just a way to remove some unwanted emotions and achieve some goals like it may appear at first sight to people who have used it just a little bit.
Its aim is nothing short enlightenment, self-realization, complete freedom and omnipotence – listening to Lester (the founder of the method), and feeling his energy, will put the SM into perspective a bit more. I can say from experience that there is not a single problem of any kind that it doesn’t solve, and in an extremely quick and simple way (especially compared to other methods). I mentioned SM with regards to the abovementioned woman, because one does not need to know specific details about the person or what they do, or the cause of the problem, in order to help them out.
I am not putting any other method down, as I have tried, and keep using, other methods. But all too frequently have I seen people getting bogged down in difficult, complex (or complex-sounding) methods to help themselves, which frequently required lots of time, effort, and discipline, with small results to show for their huge amount of effort. Most methods are also ?focalized?, ie they tend to work on one or two aspects of the human being, whilst SM can work on any aspect of man (including family and world events.)
I am aware that there are extremely ‘powerful’ energies out there, and that people are using Kundalini, elemental energies, powerful light energies, energies of Gods and Goddesses, powerful shamanic methods and herbs, etc, etc. But there is nothing more powerful than the true Being, the Spirit within us, as it is nothing short of God’s own power within us. All other energies come from there. And SM takes us there.
I keep searching and searching, and throughout the years there hasn?t been a method I haven’t heard of, but to date I haven’t found anything that comes close to SM in terms of effectiveness and simplicity – and yet I’m still open to finding something better, if it exists. So I just retain the methods that work best. I learned of SM many years ago, but stopped doing it back then, not realizing its power. Now I’ve come back to it and it’s a constant companion.
Another advantage of SM is that it works for everyone, while most methods are good for a person only if they like the method, if it’s ‘on their path’, etc. Simplicity truly rules.
Again, I’m not a crazed fan of any one technique, but with SM, I have managed to help even advanced ‘spiritual seekers’, who had tried loads of other techniques to help themselves with no lasting results. Sometimes an hour or two of work with SM would solve problems that they had had for years.
Anyway, sorry for the huge post and the digression, and for posting this in a thread that is on a seemingly different topic, but I decided to post it anyway, in case it might help anyone. My apologies if you consider this isn’t meant to be here, and of course I?ll stop writing here if you want me to. And whichever solution you choose, I wish you all the best!
(P.S. By the way, SM mentions an interesting way of finding solutions to problems ? release completely the wanting to find a solution! And it works!)
#21 by Etienne Charland on October 25, 2010 - 11:49 am
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Sedona Method is very powerful and I use Instant Release all the time. However, there are types of energy weaknesses that cannot be healed by Sedona Method, Natural Grounding, Reiki or EFT. I still use Instant Release and Natural Grounding which are very powerful, and I complement it with Alchemy to deal with issues that they cannot. That would be a whole other topic though! Enough for now 🙂
#22 by Etienne Charland on October 25, 2010 - 11:20 pm
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I read this in a book:
“In 1486, two men, Heinrich Kramer and Jacob Sprenger, wrote the book The Malleus Maleficarum, which was first published in Germany in 1487. The authors argued that witches and politics are inextricably intertwined. They allowed no arguments against the existence of witchcraft, and in their book they instructed judges, magistrates and church officials on how to identify, interrogate and convict witches. The men were members of the Dominican Order and Inquisitors for the Catholic Church. Since The Malleus Malleficarum, the oppression of women has never ceased, rather has increased exponentially, starting in Europe, and expanding to England, India, China, Africa, and virtually everywhere in the world. Today, ‘witches’ have turned into ‘bitches’, and hatred for women has taken on increasing power. Esentially, this book led to a Holocaust against women because the victims were literally burnt alive.”
Our cells remember that.
#23 by Monica on October 25, 2010 - 11:22 pm
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These questions are on my mind and I am analyzing it from the paradigm of societal influences, to biological factors, to behaviors and psychosis. It is interesting and I feel that those answers to your questions will be more inclined to women letting go of societal pressures, letting go of material and accepting one from within first. With all these Western pressures of ?I will fly like an eagle, and will compete to be the highest flying eagle even if it means disconnecting my spirit, my soul, my purpose from this life?.
You see Americans chase life (men and women). To women in their 20s life here is glamour, life here is material, life here us is finding a man who is good looking and fashionable and rich so that you can become that, life here is empowered by how much you make and how much material you can compile. Now as we reach our 30s?whoa, that all changes because our energy then calls for spirituality to fullfil the void we have been ignoring. I recommend you analyze Eat.Pray.Love?the book is profound with much detail than the movie. Eat.Pray.Love is the perfect example of what the typical American woman is like. The books you mentioned on your initial message (The Power of the Now and such) are much too spiritual and to get to the root cause of your answers we must understand what women experience in society. Other examples are (movies) Under the Tuscan Sun, French Kiss, P.S. I love you?these will prove that removing learned societal pressures you find yourself?but most women receive the message is a bit wrong because finding yourself is foremost important, however women see the love story and then soon we believe we must run away and find love. However, the consistent message on these movies are accepting life and understanding life as well as letting go. In my opinion, a perfect example on relationships can be found on the movie titled Julie and Julia. That has a beautiful message connecting us to what men and women should do when in a relationship?which is to support one another and to continue growing as an individual. Anyway, I feel you?ll find answers that lead to insecurities.
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